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Aug 26

40 m

#111: "How do I find a secure partner if...

About this episode

In this Dear Nath episode, I'll answer a question I get so often: if my picker is off because of attachment trauma, how do you actually find someone secure?

I'll breaks down what anxious attachment looks like in dating, and the real bar to aim for: Not "become secure," but heal enough to catch your own impulses and respond differently.

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