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The Paradox of Avoidant Healing: Learning to Lean Into Intimacy Despite the Fear
In this episode, we explore the paradox of avoidant healing and why intimacy can feel both deeply comforting and deeply threatening at the same time.We talk about:why avoidant attachers often push away the very connection they desirethe fear of dependency, vulnerability, and loss ... Show More
12m 1s
Apr 21
Building Connection From Stability, Not Emotional Need
Why do we crave connection so deeply… yet feel so unstable in relationships?In this episode, I dive into the difference between seeking love from emotional need versus a grounded, secure place within yourself. I share my personal journey—from feeling anxious, reactive, and lost i ... Show More
15m 43s
Mar 29
The Avoidant Experience: Love, Numbness & Inner Conflict With Bilnita Armstead
In this episode, I sit down with Bilnita Armstead, a listener of the podcast, who shares her experience navigating a dismissive/fearful avoidant attachment style. We talk about how early relationship patterns, often learned from our parents, shaped her view of love and connection ... Show More
36m 39s
Jun 2025
"Am I being unreasonable?" - Realistic & Unrealistic Expectations in Dating & Relationships
In this episode, we dive into one of the most confusing and emotionally charged questions in relationships: “Am I asking for too much?”Whether you’ve felt guilty for needing more closeness, unsure about asking for more emotional connection, or confused when to expect what in dati ... Show More
1 h
Apr 2025
Stop Auditioning for Relationships — Start Connecting
<p>You’ve been showing up in your relationships like you’re auditioning—afraid to take up space, afraid to be too much, and desperate to be chosen. But real love doesn’t ask you to perform—it asks you to be real. In this video, we’ll unpack the roots of performance-based connecti ... Show More
8m 57s
Do you feel as though you constantly need validation, reassurance or connection with your partner? If so, this episode is for you! Learn where you learned these ways of relating, how it plays out in your relationships and steps to becoming more secure!
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<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If you are the partner of someone with relationship anxiety, this episode is for you.</span></p>
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<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">If you have relationship anxiety and want to be able to ask your partner for more intentional suppo ... Show More