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Sep 2021
16 m

How To Stop Needing So Much Reassurance ...

Jessica Da Silva, LMFT
About this episode
Do you feel as though you constantly need validation, reassurance or connection with your partner? If so, this episode is for you! Learn where you learned these ways of relating, how it plays out in your relationships and steps to becoming more secure! ——— Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jess ... Show More
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