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Oct 2025
21m 13s

Having Secure Standards: The End of ‘Alm...

Johanna Adriaansen
About this episode

If you’ve ever held out for someone’s potential because you could feel how good they are deep down… this episode is for you.

We’ll talk about:

  • Why emotionally unavailable men can still feel magnetic
  • How to stop mistaking intensity for love
  • Moving from shrinking into high standards for love
  • What it really means to feel safe being chosen

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