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Oct 14

39m 38s

#117: "How Do I Get Him to Do His Work?"...

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In this episode, I'm answering the question I get asked more than almost any other, and sharing why the question itself might be what's keeping you stuck.

We talk about over-functioning, why no amount of your work can make up for his, and what changed in my own relationship when I finally stopped carrying it all.

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