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Oct 24
37m 56s

168: Why You Spiral When They Don’t Text...

The Sabrina Zohar Show
About this episode
In this week’s episode, Sabrina breaks down what your texting patterns reveal about your attachment style and emotional triggers in dating and relationships. Through her own past text exchanges, she shares how anxious thoughts, people-pleasing, and over-explaining once shaped her dating behavior, and how she learned to regulate her emotions instead of spiraling when someone didn’t respond. Sabrina explores how rejection, ghosting, and unmet expectations often trace back to deeper wounds around self-worth and safety.

She also explains how healing doesn’t mean never feeling triggered; it means recognizing those triggers, staying grounded, and choosing not to self-abandon. If texting still sends you into a loop, this episode will help you understand why and how to finally break the cycle.

Ever felt that rush of panic when someone takes hours to text back?
The tight chest.
The spinning thoughts.
The sudden urge to delete your last three messages and throw your phone across the room.

That isn’t you being “crazy.”
That’s your nervous system reacting to what it thinks is danger.
Because your brain can’t tell the difference between rejection and getting punched in the face.

In this episode, we’re talking about texting anxiety, what’s really happening inside your body when you’re waiting, overanalyzing, or trying to say the “right” thing.

And if you’re ready to take this deeper, join me live on November 6th for my masterclass: Texting Anxiety: How to Calm Your Body Before You Hit Send.

You’ll learn how to work with your body instead of against it, and finally stop letting what happens on your phone control how you feel.

🎟️ Save your seat at https://masterclass.sabrinazohar.com

Because you don’t need to care less.
You just need the right tools to feel safe again.

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