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Sep 2024
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228. The psychology of limerance

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Limerance - the state of having undeniable feelings for someone who does not feel the same way - feels so much like love but can be so confusing, because deep down we know this person is probably not the one. Despite that we find it impossible to move on, impossible to disconnect or detach despite our best efforts because our affections for this person feel so permanently wired into our brain. Today we talk about why that may be, including: 

  • The first ever studies into limerance
  • The 4 stages of limerance 
  • The addictive explanation for limerance 
  • Limerance, attachment style, fantasy and ADHD
  • What the long term emotional impacts of limerance are 
  • How to recover + 4 tips for moving on

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