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Sep 2024

42m 15s

228. The psychology of limerance

About this episode

Limerance - the state of having undeniable feelings for someone who does not feel the same way - feels so much like love but can be so confusing, because deep down we know this person is probably not the one. Despite that we find it impossible to move on, impossible to disconnect or detach despite our best efforts because our affections for this person feel so permanently wired into our brain. Today we talk about why that may be, including:

The first ever studies into limerance
The 4 stages of limerance
The addictive explanation for limerance
Limerance, attachment style, fantasy and ADHD
What the long term emotional impacts of limerance are
How to recover + 4 tips for moving on

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