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Jul 9
46m 30s

EP 503: When Life Just Keeps Throwing Ch...

CHRISTINE HASSLER
About this episode

What happens when you’re doing “all the right things”—and yet life just won’t give you a break?

In this vulnerable coaching session, Christine supports Lauren, who finds herself stuck in a difficult season marked by frustration, stagnation, and unmet desires. From canceled dates to cockroach infestations and business disappointments, Lauren feels blocked on multiple fronts—despite years of doing the inner work.

What unfolds is a compassionate deep dive into the exhaustion of “efforting” without reward, the hidden cost of spiritual performance, and the powerful shift that comes when we release the idea that life must be “fair” to be good. Together, Christine and Lauren explore how to trade spiritual perfectionism and judgment for something much softer: acceptance, self-advocacy, and grounded trust in the unseen support that’s already working on our behalf.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you feel like you’ve done the work, but life still feels hard or stagnant?
  • Are you stuck in a loop of striving, yet not seeing results?
  • Does part of you still believe life is supposed to reward effort like a transaction?
  • Are you ready to shift from pushing to receiving—from performance to presence?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

  • Sometimes, when life “isn’t working,” we’re actually in a season of integration, not failure.
  • “Life isn’t fair” is often a core wound—and learning to advocate for ourselves is the healing path.
  • Taking empowered action is only part of the equation; our energy and beliefs must match.
  • Self-advocacy is different from self-protection or hyper-independence—it’s rooted in worth.
  • Relief, not elation, is the most powerful emotional setpoint to restore inner alignment.

How to Deepen the Work:

  • Ask: “Where in my life can I lovingly advocate for myself?”
  • Practice shifting from judgment to relief. Try the affirmation: “This is what is—and I am safe.”
  • Notice when you assign meaning to disappointment. Can you stay curious instead of collapsing?
  • Look for the difference between resignation and true acceptance. One drains, the other restores.
  • Journal on this question: “What am I learning to receive in this season of life?”

 

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