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Nov 11
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171: Why You Create Stories in Your Head...

The Sabrina Zohar Show
About this episode
We’re back in the trenches. This episode, Ryan joins Sabrina in the studio to unpack YOUR questions including “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” Facebook groups to what happens when your nervous system won’t let you relax in a healthy relationship. They talk about what it actually means to trust yourself, why so many of us self-sabotage when things feel good, and how to stop creating stories in your head every time they don’t text you back for a day.

If you’ve ever said “I just feel blindsided,” or caught yourself scrolling back through screenshots trying to “decode” someone’s behavior… this one’s for you. Sabrina dives in on protest behavior, attachment styles, and that moment when you realize it’s not about them. It’s about your nervous system trying to protect you.

If you keep finding yourself in relationships that start fast and end the same way, you’re not broken.

Your body just learned that fast feels safe.

The Art of Going Slow is my new 4-week live program starting November 20.
Together, we’ll build the tools that help you stay calm, grounded, and connected while dating, without losing yourself in the process.

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