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What to do when they pull away

Nathalie Nimah
About this episode

In this episode, we unpack exactly what to do (and what not to do) when they pull away. Whether you’re dating or already in a relationship someone pulling away from us can make our mind start spinning!

I’ll walk you through:
- The common reactions that push people further away — like overreaching, chasing, or pretending you don’t care
- What healthy space actually looks like (and how to tell the difference between space and avoidance)
- What to say when you do reach out — without losing your authenticity or boundaries

This conversation is about learning to stay anchored in yourself when connection feels uncertain.


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