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Aug 22
35m 48s

How the F*ck to Actually Surrender?!

Victoria Kleinsman
About this episode

This episode is a little different, queens — I recorded it while out walking with my dog Hiro and baby Koa. It’s raw, unedited, and full of truth. The message was burning in my soul, and I knew I had to get it out to you right now.


I’m talking about surrender — what it really means, why it’s essential in eating disorder recovery (and in life), and how you can begin to embody it.


So often we fight reality, fight our bodies, fight our feelings… and that constant battle is exhausting. True freedom begins when you drop the rope, let go of control, and learn to trust.


In this episode I share:

✨ Why acceptance comes before surrender

✨ How control is an illusion (and what it’s really costing you)

✨ Practical metaphors that make surrender more tangible

✨ The difference between “giving up” and “letting go”

✨ How grief and trust play a huge role in true recovery


💬 Powerful quotes from the episode:

💬 “Acceptance is giving up the fight with reality — surrender is embodying that acceptance.”

💬 “If you’re clinging on to control like the edge of a cliff, the only way to freedom is to let go.”

💬 “Control is an illusion — the cost is always greater than the gain.”

💬 “Surrender isn’t weakness, it’s the wisest and most self-loving thing you can do.”

💬 “When you surrender, you lean into trust and faith — even when you can’t yet see the net that will catch you.”


If you’ve ever wondered how to actually surrender — in recovery, in your body, and in life — this episode will give you both the wisdom and the practical tools to start.


Resources & Links:

🖤 Join my FREE support group: https://victoriakleinsman.com/free-support-group/

🖤 Work with me: https://victoriakleinsman.com/

🖤 Follow me on Instagram @victoriakleinsmanofficial

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