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Sep 25
36m 20s

Cake, Chaos & Coming Home to Yourself - ...

Victoria Kleinsman
About this episode

In this candid Q&A episode, I answer real questions from my Body Love Binge group coaching members. I tackle the tough topics around eating disorder recovery with my signature no-BS compassion and practical wisdom - recorded spontaneously while my husband took our baby out to test the new pushchair!


Key Quotes from the Episode:


"Going all in isn't a behaviour you can measure. Going all in is how you show up internally - and it's all about what is manageable for YOU."


"Restriction isn't an action, it's a state of mind. If you have a restrictive mind, anything will be turned into a diet."


"Recovery is the foundation of the rest of your life. It's not the finish line."


"The only difference between a dream and a goal is a plan and the belief that it's gonna happen."


"When you're fully recovered, other people's behaviors around food and exercise won't affect you anymore. You'll be completely free."


What I Cover in This Episode:


• Managing panic zone vs stretch zone - How to take recovery actions without re-traumatising yourself and why staying in your comfort zone won't work


• Intuitive eating vs intuition eating - Why I don't use traditional intuitive eating guidelines and my approach to eating for pure pleasure


• Breaking free from food habits and rules - How to stop turning hunger/fullness into another diet and why eating the same foods can be perfectly fine


• Making room for cake - Permission to eat less nutritious food to save space for treats you're excited about


• Signs of true recovery - Physical, mental, and emotional markers that show you've reached full freedom (plus what to do with your life after recovery)


• Dealing with ED voice arguing back - Why the eating disorder might get louder deeper in recovery and how to handle the internal negotiations


• Making regular eating non-negotiable - Practical strategies for consistent eating when you're full, emotional, or overwhelmed by meal prep


• Body image in recovery - Moving from body hate to neutrality to unconditional love, and why you don't have to like how you look to be free


• Living with a fitness-obsessed partner - How to protect your recovery when your partner's exercise and food behaviours are triggering


• Recovery isn't linear - Understanding that setbacks and challenges are part of the process, not signs of failure


My approach combines trauma-informed recovery principles with practical, real-world strategies that honour where each person is in their unique journey toward food and body freedom.


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