Habits Aren’t The Enemy: Why Safety Heals What Willpower Can’t.
This episode is a little different, Queens — it came to me in the middle of the night while lying in bed with baby Koa. I had no plan to record, but the download was strong, so here it is: raw, real, and straight from my heart.
I’m talking about habits — what they actually are, why they form, and how to truly shift them in recovery (without fighting yourself).
So many of my clients worry that bingeing, emotional eating, or dessert-after-dinner will become “bad habits.” But here’s the truth: when you heal the root cause, habits fall away naturally. They stop being needed.
In this episode I share:
✨ The difference between habits and routines (and why it matters in recovery)
✨ How your brain wires habits — and how to rewire them with choice
✨ Why forcing yourself out of ED habits never works long-term
✨ The “swap, don’t stop” principle that makes change easier
✨ Why allowance and self-trust create freedom
💬 Powerful quotes from the episode:
💬 “You are not your brain. You have a brain — and you can retrain it.”
💬 “Habits aren’t good or bad — they’re just your brain making life easier.”
💬 “When you no longer need the habit, it’s simple to change it.”
💬 “Allowance creates space for choice. Restriction only creates rebellion.”
💬 “Freedom isn’t about having no habits — it’s about choosing the ones that serve you.”
If you’ve ever worried about getting “stuck” in bad habits, this episode will help you see them in a whole new light — and show you how healing the root makes change effortless.
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