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Oct 3
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Coaching Session: Navigating Body Accept...

Victoria Kleinsman
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Body Love Binge Group Coaching Call - Living with Someone Who Restricts


In this powerful coaching session, I work with Kitty, a woman who recovered from 40 years of bulimia and is now training to be a coach herself. She's navigating the challenge of living with a partner who naturally restricts and controls his eating during cycling season - and how it's bringing up her own insecurities about her recovered body.


Key Quotes from the Session:


"You can only take someone as far as you've gone yourself."


"Where are you on the acceptance spectrum? From 'this is my body' 🤷🏼‍♀️ to 'I'm fucking having to accept it because it is what it is' 😡?"


"If you were thinner, would your partners' restrictive behaviours still affect you? If not, then it's about your relationship to your body, not him."


"Everyone's a mirror. They're reflecting back what's ready to be healed within you."


"Coaching others is deeper healing for yourself. You realise where you're really at when you start coaching."


What I Cover in This Session:


💬 Working through triggers when your partner restricts and controls their eating - Why it's so hard to witness and what it's really showing you about your own healing


💬 The difference between acceptance and preference - Understanding where you are on the acceptance spectrum and why that matters


💬 Getting underneath guilt to the core emotion - Using the Russian dolls analogy to find what's really driving the discomfort


💬 The part of you that's not caught up yet - Working with the part that's confused and questioning your recovery choices


💬 Why your partner's behaviours trigger you - Uncovering what you think you're missing by being in a bigger body


💬 Fashion, family judgment, and fear - Addressing the real concerns underneath body image struggles in recovery


💬 The grieving process for your old body - Why writing a letter to your past body can support deeper healing


💬 Somatic practices for body acceptance - How to use touch, breath, and presence to create safety with your body


💬 The power of coaching others in your own recovery - How teaching what you've learnt deepens your healing


💬 Letting them do their thing - Why other people's choices about their bodies don't need to affect your recovery


This session demonstrates the nuanced work of later-stage recovery - moving beyond physical rehabilitation into the deeper emotional and relational aspects of true food and body freedom.


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