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Dec 2023
21m 23s

Why you get anxious in relationship

bethathealinggirl
About this episode

We're diving deep into the heart of anxious avoidance in relationships. If you've ever felt like running for the hills when things get too real, this episode is your safe haven. Join me as I unpack the complex world of anxious avoidance. Why do we push away love when we crave it the most? How can we break free from this cycle?

Get ready for an eye-opening journey filled with personal insights and helpful tips!  P.s. This episode isn't just about understanding anxious avoidance; it's about transforming your approach to love and relationships. My goal is to make sure you leave with practical strategies to start healing from the roots up.

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