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Jun 2025
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301: Essential Insights for Understandin...

MATTHEW HUSSEY
About this episode

Do you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners? Are you dating someone who pulls away just when things get close? When this happens, it’s easy to feel lost and wonder if the person you’re dating is avoidant or simply not that interested.

In this episode, Matthew, Stephen, and Audrey dive deep into the topic of avoidant attachment, exploring how it develops, signs to look for, and what you can do if you’re dating someone with avoidant behavior.

Topics Covered:

  • The 5 key traits of avoidant partners.

  • Why avoidants and anxious people are magnetically drawn to each other.

  • Whether we overuse the “avoidant” label as a defense mechanism.

  • How early experiences shape attachment patterns.

  • What to do if you’re anxiously attached and dating someone avoidant.

  • How to tell the difference between an avoidant and someone who just doesn’t want a relationship.

  • How to anticipate the needs of a more independent partner.

  • The importance of not mistaking emotional unavailability for “value.”

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