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Oct 7
28m 13s

What Happens When You Confuse Your Anxie...

bethathealinggirl
About this episode

This week we’re unpacking the real reason your brain confuses anxiety for intuition (and how to stop self‑sabotaging a healthy relationship!)

If you’ve ever questioned your feelings, overanalyzed your partner’s every move, or convinced yourself your anxiety was a “gut feeling,” this episode is for you!

🧠 In this episode we'll be diving into:

✨ Why “the ick” is often a fear of intimacy, not intuition

✨ How anxiety shows up as false alarms in safe relationships

✨ The difference between red flags vs. self‑protection

✨ How to stop testing your partner and start trusting connection

✨ What your nervous system is actually trying to protect you from

✨ Why discomfort doesn’t mean danger—it means growth

I share a personal story about how I almost lost an incredible partner because I thought my fear was “a sign.” (Spoiler: it wasn’t.) I want you to stop mistaking safety for boredom and start building the kind of secure relationship you’ve been craving!

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