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Mar 2025
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Am I Settling? Am I Losing Myself? Relat...

BRITTANY HOCKLEY AND LAURA BYRNE
About this episode

Have you ever been in a relationship where you asked “am I settling?”
What about am I losing myself, what if I’m not good enough and is this type of relationship normal? Sometimes, particularly if you might be a bit of an anxious person already, it can be really hard to tell the difference between relationship anxiety and genuine red flags or signs that you might actually not be compatible.

Today we have anxiety therapist, host of The Anxiety Reset Podcast and author Georgie Collinson joining us to speak about the work she’s done for her new book ‘Master your relationship anxiety.”
Georgie’s previous book, The Anxiety Reset Method, reached international success when it was picked for Oprah’s Book Club in 2023 and was featured on Oprah Daily. 

We’re going to be speaking about why exactly are you feeling anxious in love, what anxiety is trying to tell you, the four types of relationship anxiety and how it may prevent us from being our best selves in relationships.  

We speak about: 

  • How relationship anxiety differs from generalised anxiety
  • The difference between actual red flags and anxious tendencies
  • Why we keep having the same relationship patterns and how to break them
  • The 3 stages of love: base love, chaotic love and expansive love
  • How to stop being attracted to people who are bad for you
  • What ‘learned helplessness’ is
  • A healthy relationship is not boring, settling or dull

You can find more from Georgie like her new book ‘master your relationship anxiety’ and her Instagram

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