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Dec 2024
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#170: Dating Q&A: Early Dating with Anxi...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In this Q&A episode, I’m answering your most common questions about early dating—particularly through the lens of anxious attachment. If dating feels like a minefield of overthinking, anxiety, and emotional highs and lows, this episode is for you.

We’ll explore:

  • Early dating dynamics: Navigating the vulnerability and uncertainty that comes with getting to know someone new.
  • Not attaching too quickly: Why it happens for those with anxious attachment and how to pace yourself emotionally.
  • Texting anxiety: How to manage the discomfort of waiting for replies and keep yourself grounded.
  • Values over chemistry: Why prioritising what truly matters can help you avoid unhealthy patterns and feel more secure.

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