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Aug 2025
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Are You Mad at Me? How to Calm People‑Pl...

DR. LISA MARIE BOBBY
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Have you ever stared at your phone, rereading a text that ended with a period and spiraled into, “Oh no… are they mad at me?” Or maybe someone didn’t heart your Instagram story, and suddenly your nervous system is in full red alert mode. If so, you’re not alone. And you’re definitely not broken. I’m joined by psychotherapist and author Meg Josephson to ta ... Show More
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