This week, I sat down once again with the one and only Tabitha Farrar—eating disorder recovery coach, author, and all-round truth-teller—to talk about how to actually rewire negative body image.
Tabitha’s just released a powerful new book called “Fried Eggs and Thunder Thighs” (yes, you read that right!) and it dives deep into the root of negative body image and how to teach your brain a different story.
In this conversation, we explored:
• Why negative body image is not your fault—and definitely not your truth
• How your actions teach your brain more than your thoughts ever will
• What to do when shame shows up
• How to respond when someone does comment on your body
• Why being “recovered” doesn’t automatically mean you’ll love your body—and what to do about it
We also talk about her newly rewritten version of Rehabilitate, Rewire, Recover and why she decided to go back and make it even more bold, honest, and helpful.
This is a must-listen if you:
• Still struggle with body image even after recovering from disordered eating
• Want to feel more free and confident in your body, regardless of size
• Are tired of being controlled by negative thoughts or shame
• Are curious about how emotions like guilt and disgust are actually tools your brain uses—and how to take your power back
In this episode, we get real about:
• How to act “as if” you love your body (even when you don’t yet)
• The difference between your brain and your mind—and why that matters
• Why it’s not about waiting to feel better before you take action
• The fastest way to rewire body image beliefs
• What I do when my own brain throws shame my way
Resources mentioned:
📘 Tabitha’s books: Fried Eggs and Thunder Thighs + Rehabilitate, Rewire, Recover (Updated Edition)
📺 Her YouTube: @tabithafarrar
Connect with me:
📧 victoria@victoriakleinsman.com
📲 Instagram: @victoriakleinsmanofficial
💬 5 Quotes I Loved from This Episode
1. “I’m not my shame—I’m the one observing it. And that gives me the power to choose how I respond.”
2. “If I want my brain to believe my body is safe, I have to act like it is—even if it’s uncomfortable.”
3. “Every time I act as if I love my body, I’m rewiring my brain—and that’s what creates freedom.”
4. “My emotions aren’t facts—they’re just tools my brain uses to try and keep me ‘safe’ based on old beliefs.”
5. “The truth is: if recovery still feels hard after months and months, it’s not me—it’s my training strategy that needs adjusting.”