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Feb 2025
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126: How to Stop Obsessing Over Someone ...

The Sabrina Zohar Show
About this episode
Why do we obsess over people who give us nothing? Why does unavailability make someone more attractive? And how do you break free from this cycle for good?

In this solo episode, Sabrina Zohar dives deep into limerence—the psychological trap that keeps you fixated on the wrong people. But this isn't just about dopamine and attachment theory; this episode goes further, exploring:

  • The real reason you can’t stop thinking about them (hint: it’s not because they’re special).
  • How childhood patterns train your brain to mistake anxiety for attraction.
  • Why fantasy and longing feel safer than real emotional intimacy.
  • IFS (Internal Family Systems) techniques to uncover and heal the wounded parts of you that keep chasing the unavailable.
  • How to disrupt the obsession cycle with practical, body-based tools.
  • The question that will break the spell: What am I afraid will happen if I let them go?
If you’re stuck in your head, constantly replaying what-if scenarios, or convincing yourself they must be the one—this episode is for you. It’s time to step out of the fantasy and reclaim your power.

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