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May 2023
1h 38m

#21 - Leave emotional addiction in your ...

Sarah Yudkin
About this episode

This episode is a masterclass of how to shift out of the compulsive patterns of relationship anxiety and ROCD and switching to acting and living from our values.

In this episode we discuss:

  • What are compulsions and why do they happen in our relationships
  • How to stop compulsive actions, and compulsive thoughts
  • Should you have sex if you don’t feel like it?
  • Instead of trying “fix” and “heal” - do this instead
  • An exercise to get clear on your life and relationship values
  • How to take actions in your life despite how you feel

Learn more about Star and his work here:

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@starjessetaylor

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/starjessetaylor/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y%3D

In the episode, Star mentions the work of Mark Freeman - here is Mark’s YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@everybodyhasabrain/videos

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