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Aug 12
21m 48s

How to Get Out of the Overthinking Loop ...

bethathealinggirl
About this episode

If you spiral when your partner seems distant… If your brain won’t stop running “what did I do wrong?” loops… If you’re smart, successful, high-achieving, and still struggling with anxious thoughts in love… You are so not alone. And this episode is for you. 🧠💔

We’re unpacking 3 hard truths about overthinking that every anxious-attached woman needs to hear (especially if you’ve tried everything and still find yourself mentally replaying texts, second-guessing convos, or feeling like your thoughts are running you).

We're breaking down:

⭐️ The truth about why you can’t “outthink” fear

⭐️ What your spiral is actually protecting you from

⭐️ Why control isn’t the answer and what is

⭐️ How to retrain your nervous system instead of judging it

Plus, a real-time coaching moment with a Healing Girl Gang member struggling to let go of someone who doesn’t see a future even though she still feels love for him. You’re going to want to hear this. 👀 🌿

Ready to heal the root of your relationship anxiety and stop the mental spiraling once and for all? Inside Healing Girl Gang, we do just that with masterclasses, implementation days, live coaching, and our Overthinking Detox every month.

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