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Feb 2021
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#49: Stop Obsessing about the Could Have...

BREAK UP BESTIE
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In today's solo episode I'm talking all about the could haves and should haves that we all experience post break up. Where you're up at night replaying every conversation you had with your ex trying to figure out what went wrong or obsessing about what you could have done differently so the break up didn't happen. The could haves and should haves are a very universal part of a break up but they can be so destructive. In this episode I talk about why we obsess on them, why it's so harmful to break up recovery, the different between shaming and learning, and how to stop yourself from obsessing about them too much. 

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