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Feb 2021
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#49: How to Stop Obsessing Over the Past...

BREAK UP BESTIE
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In today's solo episode I'm talking all about the could haves and should haves that we all experience post break up. Where you're up at night replaying every conversation you had with your ex trying to figure out what went wrong or obsessing about what you could have done differently so the break up didn't happen. The could haves and should haves are a very ... Show More
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