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Oct 2023
17m 37s

Ep. 211 - I'm scared to get over my ex

Breakup Coach Dorothy
About this episode

Today we talk about overcoming the fear of moving on from an ex. You'll discover the distinction between different types of desires, along with practical strategies to reduce desire in your brain. The episode highlights desire as the root cause of most breakup-related problems, leading to compulsive like behaviors. Fear not; reducing desire doesn't equate to vilifying your ex or giving up on your dreams but rather focusing on the desired outcome itself. This episode offers hope, guidance, and a path to healing for those navigating heartbreak. So, tune in and remember, reducing desire for your ex is not a daunting task; it's a step toward a brighter future where you're in control.

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