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Nov 2022
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#138 Can You Still Love Your Ex AND Let ...

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In this episode I discuss the question, can you love AND let go? So often we think in order to let go of an ex we need to forget them or hate them when in reality you can still love them at a distance, have fond memories with them, AND be able to let go of your relationship. I discuss the concept of contrary action, and how a breakup isn't about telling yourself not to love your ex it's about taking actions to slowly let them go.


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