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Mar 2023
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#55: "I can't help but hope that my ex c...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In this Q&A episode, we're talking all about moving on after a break-up. Specifically, what to do when we want to move on, but deep down we're still very much hoping our ex will reach out and want to rekindle.

We cover:

  • the importance of allowing ourselves to feel our feelings after a break-up
  • why we don't need to emotionally let go before moving on
  • how to take action to support yourself after a break-up

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