Aug 12

Why Your Partner Can't Be the Adult You Need

We spend a lot of time asking why our partners behave the way they do.But how often do we ask ourselves what our own childhood taught us about being an adult?In this episode, we explore how the lessons we learned growing up shape our relationships today - from anxious and avoidan ... Show More

45 m

Aug 3

What To Do When Partner Can't Give You What You Need

It is frustrating when a partner can't give you what you need especially after they promised or implied they could. We try to change them - or their mind. We hope they can change and become the person we thought they were when we first met. We struggle with the fear of the relati ... Show More

20m 12s

Jul 28

Why Avoidants Tell You What You Want to Hear

Are the manipulating you by telling you what you want to hear? It's a lot deeper than this and this episode breaks it down. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show

16m 50s

Nov 2024

#166: Signs an Avoidant Partner is Deactivating & What to Do About It

In today's episode, we’re diving into what avoidant partner deactivation looks like and how you can respond to this experience in a way that protects your emotional wellbeing and prevents further spiralling and disconnection. We’ll explore the subtle ways avoidant ... Show More

26m 24s

Dec 2024

#168: How to Support an Avoidant Partner to Open Up

In this episode of On Attachment, we’re diving into how to support an avoidant partner in opening up emotionally. If you’ve ever felt frustrated by your partner’s emotional distance or found yourself unsure how to help them feel safe in the relationship, this episode ... Show More

22m 16s

Apr 2022

#6: Q&A: On Anxious-Avoidant Relationships

In this episode, I'm answering your questions around how to navigate relationships with avoidant partners. We're covering topics like how to effectively communicate with an avoidant partner, whether an avoidant partner will ever realise they're avoidant, whethe ... Show More

17m 21s

May 2025

The Unspoken Pain of Avoidant Attachment

In this episode, we explore the hidden struggles behind avoidant attachment through a candid conversation with someone who’s lived it.We discuss:🔹 Why he resisted change in past relationships — believing emotional distance was a strength🔹 How self-protection became self-disconn ... Show More

43m 49s

Nov 2023

128 - Avoidant Attachment: The Real Reason They Pull Away

The avoidantly attached deserved some airtime. Are avoidantly attached individuals avoiding love or avoiding vulnerability, rejection and potential discomfort? In this heavily requested episode, this week Louise & clinical psychologist Dr. Tari Mack dive into the Avoidant Attachm ... Show More

45m 56s

Mar 2023

#59: "How should I bring up moving in together with my avoidant partner?"

In today's Q&A episode, I'm answering the question of how to bring up wanting to move in together with an avoidant partner. This episode will be super helpful for anyone in this same situation, or who is otherwise wanting to have a "what are we?" type c ... Show More

17m 24s

Jun 2022

#14: 5 Ways to Support an Avoidant Partner

In this episode, we're diving into 5 ways to support an avoidant partner - so that you can cultivate greater understanding and connection, and build a safe, secure relationship. We'll touch on whether it's a good idea to tell your partner that they're avoid ... Show More

20m 33s

Jul 2025

#197: What Avoidant People Need to Thrive in a Relationship

In today’s episode, we’re exploring what avoidant attached people actually need to feel safe and secure in a relationship — and how partners can support that without self-abandoning.Avoidant attachment is often misunderstood — labelled as cold, distant, or commitment-ph ... Show More

21m 38s

Jan 2025

Is It Them or Me? Separating My Avoidant Fears With Randy Hamama (Client Stories)

In today’s episode, former client and dismissive avoidant attacher Randy Hamama shares his journey of navigating insecurities in a new relationship. He discusses common avoidant struggles, such as discerning fears from authentic desires, staying present when the urge to withdraw ... Show More

47m 58s

Jun 2025

Essential Insights for Understanding an Avoidant

Do you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners? Are you dating someone who pulls away just when things get close? When this happens, it’s easy to feel lost and wonder if the person you’re dating is avoidant or simply not that interested. In this episode, Matthew, Stephen ... Show More

55m 12s

Into the Mind of An Avoidant - Prerecord...