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Nov 6
53m 19s

Into the Mind of An Avoidant

Annalisa Bahadur
About this episode
Today we dive into the mind of an avoidant- - what makes them shut down? - what are the thinking when they shut down? - what are the feeling when they have the urge to run away or shut down? - why do they walk away? And what you and your partner can do to save your relationship. I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode. Support the show 
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