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How Secure People Breakup

Annalisa Bahadur
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Securely attached people can love someone and still decide to leave the relationship. Scary, huh. They may have communicated their needs, tried to work through problems, and given their partner opportunities to make changes. But when they realize that the relationship is no longer healthy or fulfilling, they may decide to walk away rather than keep trying to ... Show More
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