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Mar 2023
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#59: "How should I bring up moving in to...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In today's Q&A episode, I'm answering the question of how to bring up wanting to move in together with an avoidant partner. This episode will be super helpful for anyone in this same situation, or who is otherwise wanting to have a "what are we?" type chat with their avoidant partner.

We'll cover:

  • mindset shifts for the anxious partner in approaching these conversations
  • how to own your desires and feel comfortable voicing them
  • how best to approach these conversations with an avoidant partner
  • what to do if you're not on the same page

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