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Jun 2022

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#14: 5 Ways to Support an Avoidant Partn...

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In this episode, we're diving into 5 ways to support an avoidant partner - so that you can cultivate greater understanding and connection, and build a safe, secure relationship. We'll touch on whether it's a good idea to tell your partner that they're avoidant, how to communicate your needs in a way that your partner can receive them, how not to communicate with an avoidant partner, and how your partner's love languages might differ from yours.

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