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Episode 132: Set Point Weight Explained:...

Julia Trehane
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Welcome back to Fly to Freedom.

Set point weight is one of the most misunderstood and emotionally charged topics in eating disorder recovery. In this episode, I’m breaking down what it really means, why it matters so much, and how to stop fighting your body so you can finally feel safe in it.

We’ll explore:

  • What set point weight is (and what it isn’t)

  • Why your body defends this natural range so fiercely

  • The emotional and biological impact of trying to stay below it

  • Why overshoot happens and why it’s not failure but part of healing

  • Why some people live in larger bodies and what’s really going on there

  • How to cope if your weight has stabilised but you still don’t feel at home in your body

This is about more than numbers or appearance. It’s about understanding your body as a partner, not a problem. When you stop resisting your set point weight, your body can move out of survival mode, your mind can quieten, and your life can finally expand beyond control.

Whether you’re at the beginning of recovery, in the messy middle, or wondering if your body has settled, this conversation will help you make sense of the chaos, release shame, and begin to trust that your body has always been on your side.

💛 You deserve peace. You deserve freedom. And your body is not the enemy—it’s your home.

💛 If you’re looking for a safe place to explore what recovery really means for you, The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle is there to support you. Inside you’ll find live coaching calls, courses, workshops, and a community of people who understand.

I'm also running a public workshop on 11th October on Healing The Fear Of Weight Gain.

If this episode resonated with you, then this workshop will really help you. Book now: https://www.juliatrehane.com/workshops

And when you’re ready for deeper, personalised work on the root causes of the eating disorder, my 1:1 coaching offers close support and guidance to help you move towards full freedom.

Wherever you are right now — remember, presence is enough, and you are always worth choosing.

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