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Aug 12
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Episode 124: Tough Love, Real Self-Love:...

Julia Trehane
About this episode

In this episode of Fly to Freedom, I'm sharing the kind of self-love we don’t often talk about — the kind that doesn’t feel soft or sweet at first, but changes everything.

This isn’t about face masks or bubble baths. This is about choosing freedom over comfort. It’s about acting like you matter, even when every voice in your head is telling you that you don’t.

We explore what it means to practice self-love as a behaviour — not a mood, not a vibe, and definitely not something you wait to feel. We’ll talk about what rewiring the brain really looks like, why things feel fake before they feel real, and how your inner dialogue either builds or breaks down your self-belief.

If you've ever thought:
🌀 “I’m not ready.”
🌀 “This feels fake.”
🌀 “It’s easier to stay where I am.”
Then this episode is a wake-up call rooted in compassion, neuroscience, and truth.

You’ll learn:

  • Why self-love starts with action, not belief

  • How to rewire your brain through small, consistent choices

  • What ‘limbic friction’ is and why it makes new behaviours feel wrong

  • How to speak to yourself in ways that calm your nervous system and support recovery

  • What happens when you stop waiting to feel ready and start acting like you're already enough

And I’ll also share the real behind-the-scenes of my own visibility journey — how I had to rewire the belief that it’s safer not to be seen, and how showing up became an act of love, not fear.

💛 If you're feeling stuck in perfectionism, control, or self-abandonment… this is for you.

Inside The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle, we do this work — not just talk about it.

🌿 Monthly live coaching with me
🌿 On-demand courses and recovery tools
🌿 The Feelings Navigator to help you understand and process intense emotions
🌿 Weekly recovery challenges
🌿 A private, supportive chat space to connect with others who get it
🌿 And the kind of truth, compassion and structure that helps you finally move forward

Come be part of something real.
You don’t have to do this alone.

👉 Join us here: https://www.edrecoverycircle.com/join

Ready for support that actually changes things?

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