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Jul 2025
47m 44s

Episode 119: Letting Go of Control, Movi...

Julia Trehane
About this episode

This month, Victoria and I sat down for another open-hearted Q&A, where we answered your beautiful, brave, and deeply honest questions about recovery.

From the fear of weight gain to exercising in a free body… from feeling lost in free time to wondering whether you’ve truly reached your set point weight… we covered so much of what recovery really looks and feels like – the messy, the magical, and everything in between.

Whether you’re in the thick of fear or starting to sense your own strength coming through, I promise you’ll find something here that speaks to your heart.

In this episode, we explore:

  • 🔸 How I gave myself permission to let go of control – and how you can too

  • 🔸 Why fear of judgment is part of the process – and how to stop letting it define you

  • 🔸 My honest experience of movement after recovery (and why I quit CrossFit… again)

  • 🔸 What to do when you feel like you’re rebelling against recovery

  • 🔸 How I support my clients navigating recovery and motherhood

  • 🔸 The truth about fear of weight gain – and how I finally stopped letting it control my life

  • 🔸 How to know if you’ve reached your set point weight

  • 🔸 Recognising subtle food and exercise rules – even when you think you don’t have any

  • 🔸 Mindset tools I use with clients before meals (and still use myself!)

  • 🔸 My thoughts on DBT in recovery – and what I believe it misses

  • 🔸 Why free time can feel scary – and how I learned to enjoy it again

I also shared some of my personal favourite recovery tools, including how I support my body after movement, how I help clients connect with their 'higher self' before meals, and why recording affirmations in your own voice can be so healing.

If you’re asking “How do I know if I’m really recovering?” or “Why does this still feel so hard?” – this episode is for you. And I hope it reminds you that you're never alone.

🔗 I mentioned:

  • Join the Eating Disorder Recovery Circle to access tools like the Feelings Navigator, Finding Your WHY, recovery chat spaces, and every workshop I reference in this episode.

  • Life Without Ed by Jenni Schaefer – a great read if you’re trying to separate your identity from the eating disorder.

💞 Ready for deeper support in your recovery?
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If you’re ready to move through fear, challenge old patterns, and build a life beyond the eating disorder, you’ll never feel so supported to recover.

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