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Jun 2025
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How to Love Yourself Amidst Trauma, Grie...

Mary Jelkovsky
About this episode

Ruthie Lindsey joins us for a powerful and tender conversation about healing, self-compassion, and what it truly means to love yourself. As a speaker and author, Ruthie shares her journey of navigating chronic pain, deep grief, and religious trauma. Her story reminds us that even in the most painful chapters of life, there is beauty to be found—and that healing is possible when we learn to come home to ourselves.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

  • How Ruthie “came back to life” after both physical and emotional trauma
  • The ongoing journey of processing grief, including the loss of her father and how it shaped her healing
  • The challenges of living with chronic pain while still choosing to love your body
  • What “embodied healing” means and feels like
  • Embodiment practices that help you process and release trauma
  • How religious trauma shapes our relationship with ourselves and how to rediscover spirituality on your own terms
  • What it looks like to reparent yourself and love yourself through the process

This episode is especially meaningful for women who are on a healing journey whether it’s navigating grief, mental health, faith shifts, body image struggles, or simply trying to feel more comfortable in your body. Ruthie offers a compassionate reminder that you don’t need to be “fixed” to be worthy. You just need to show up with presence, honesty, and a willingness to love yourself as you are. You are enough.

Follow Ruthie on Instagram: @ruthielindsey Check out her upcoming workshops and retreats.

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