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Jun 12
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Ep. 254: Feeling Lost After ED Recovery ...

Mary Jelkovsky
About this episode

What if a little bit of delusion might be exactly what you need to boost your confidence? As the kids these days say: “being delulu is the solulu!” 

Mary shares 4 mindset shifts– that some might consider “delusional”– but will do wonders for your confidence. 

You will learn how to... 
- lie to yourself in an empowering way lol 
- stop comparing yourself to others with one very simple mindset shift 
- break free from external validation and derive your confidence from within 
- balance self-trust with consistent, confident action-taking 
- release perfectionism and believe in yourself 

Especially for women, embracing a positive mindset is often the first rebellion against a world that profits off of our self-doubt. This isn’t about toxic positivity or lying to yourself in a way that’s avoidant. It’s about consciously choosing beliefs rooted in self-love that remind you that you are enough. Reclaim your self-esteem by choosing self-talk that inspires action and fuels your dreams, regardless of personal insecurities or cultural expectations. 

Remember: Confidence doesn’t always have to be logical. It just has to set you free. If you enjoyed this episode, share it with your friends to spread the gift of self-love! We love women empowering women! 

Deepen your self-love journey with Mary’s books: 
1. The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself. 
2. 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are. 

Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast 

Mentioned In This Episode... 
Ep. 212 How To Be Honest with Yourself 
How Often Do People Lie? University of Wisconsin article 
Ep. 246: The Breakup That Paved My Self-Love Journey 
@alok on Instagram 
Ep. 250: Productivity Advice Meets Self-Compassion with Oliver Burkeman 
Useful Not True by Derek Sivers

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