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Jun 3
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Episode 114: Is It Really Possible to Ge...

Julia Trehane
About this episode

The fear of weight gain is one of the most paralysing and misunderstood parts of eating disorder recovery. And in this episode of Fly to Freedom, I’m not sugar-coating it. I’m answering the question I get asked more than any other: Can I actually stop being afraid of gaining weight?

The truth is, yes—you can. But not in the way your brain probably hopes. Recovery isn’t about waiting for the fear to go before you take action. It’s about taking action even while the fear is loud. In this episode, I unpack what’s really behind the fear of weight gain—beyond body image—and why so many people stay stuck even after their weight is restored.

We’ll explore:

  • Why gaining weight doesn’t magically remove the fear

  • The deep childhood beliefs and emotional wiring that feed body shame

  • Why this fear is part of the eating disorder itself—not a neutral preference

  • The real reason people still struggle after physical recovery

  • How to meet the younger part of you who internalised the belief that thinness meant safety

  • What it takes to move through fear with self-compassion instead of perfectionism

You’ll walk away with powerful insights and practical mindset shifts to help you stop letting fear make your decisions, and start choosing recovery with your whole heart—even when it’s hard.

💛 If this episode speaks to you, the Overcoming the Fear of Weight Gain course is now available as a standalone offering outside of The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle—for a limited time only. This is the course that’s helped so many people begin their freedom journey from this exact fear.

Go HERE to find out more.

And if you want a loving, supportive space to be held while you walk this path, come and join us inside The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle.

You don’t need to be fearless. You just need to stop letting fear decide your future.

Julia Trehane is a specialist anorexia recovery coach supporting people to rebuild their lives and bodies with compassion, honesty, and unshakeable belief in full recovery.

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