What do therapists mean when they say someone has a "victim mentality"? In this episode, we unpack this flippant term and explore what’s going on underneath it. We recognize that "victim mentality" is applied to several distinct phenomena. We discuss the difference between being an actual victim of harm, using "victimhood" as a protective defense, and unproc ... Show More
May 2026
The Role of Emotion in Therapy
Emotion is the heart of our work as therapists. They can be slippery and elusive, hard to access, scary to tap into and feel fully. There are countless frameworks for understanding emotion, and in this episode we talk about how we personally conceptualize these phenomena. ******* ... Show More
40m 26s
Apr 2026
How to Avoid Being Harmful on Social Media
Even though we discussed being a therapist on social media fairly recently, we thought it was important to talk about it again because a therapist with a huge following (therapyjeff) posted things that were objectively harmful, intentionally or not, in recent weeks. It ignited a ... Show More
40m 33s
Aug 2023
Embracing Fate: Nietzsche's Answer to the Victim Mentality
You can be a genuine victim of something terrible and still refuse to live as a victim. That distinction is the whole episode. As I put it in the conversation, "the victim mindset is not just disempowering, it's also foolish, inaccurate, and irrational."I look at where the victim ... Show More
31m 12s
Mar 2025
Stop Being a Victim to Life.
Today we are talking about combatting victim mentality.Looking for trusted mental health support? Whether you're dealing with anxiety, trauma, depression, suicidal thoughts, self-harm, OCD, bipolar disorder, or just need some guidance, you've come to the right place. On this chan ... Show More
5m 36s
Jul 2024
How To Deal With Victim Mentality
<p>Today we're taking a thorough look at how to break free from the victim mindset. We'll explore its roots in childhood, how it becomes ingrained over time, and most importantly, how to overcome it. I'll discuss how overprotective parenting and constant criticism can lead to fee ... Show More
19m 46s
Jun 2022
Reframing Victim Mentality
We all do it: “He cheated on me!” “She stole my man!” “My mom lied to me!” “He manipulated me!”When we’re hurt, especially by people we love and trust, it’s easy to dwell on our pain and fall into a victim mindset. But when we do that, we get stuck – and we only hurt ourselves mo ... Show More
21m 18s
<p dir="ltr">Do you get offended if a date doesn't immediately get back to you? </p> <p dir="ltr">How about when you ask a friend to call you later and they don't?</p> <p dir="ltr">When you pass a stranger on the street and they glance at you, looking annoyed, do you assume their ... Show More
