What do therapists mean when they say someone has a "victim mentality"? In this episode, we unpack this flippant term and explore what’s going on underneath it. We recognize that "victim mentality" is applied to several distinct phenomena. We discuss the difference between being an actual victim of harm, using "victimhood" as a protective defense, and unproc ... Show More
May 6
The Role of Emotion in Therapy
Emotion is the heart of our work as therapists. They can be slippery and elusive, hard to access, scary to tap into and feel fully. There are countless frameworks for understanding emotion, and in this episode we talk about how we personally conceptualize these phenomena. Join us ... Show More
39m 36s
Apr 29
How to Avoid Being Harmful on Social Media
Even though we discussed being a therapist on social media fairly recently, we thought it was important to talk about it again because a therapist with a huge following (therapyjeff) posted things that were objectively harmful, intentionally or not, in recent weeks. It ignited a ... Show More
39m 43s
Aug 2023
Embracing Fate: Nietzsche's Answer to the Victim Mentality
You can be a genuine victim of something terrible and still refuse to live as a victim. That distinction is the whole episode. As I put it in the conversation, "the victim mindset is not just disempowering, it's also foolish, inaccurate, and irrational."I look at where the victim ... Show More
31m 48s
Dec 2024
How to Overcome Victim Mindset and Take Responsibility For Your Life, w/ James Oliver
<p>James Oliver is a Self-Leadership Coach and Men’s Work Facilitator from the UK. He works with impact-driven men from around the world, to help them overcome resistance, self-doubt and shame, so that they can live freely, joyfully and in pursuit of their highest potential and p ... Show More
57m 9s
Oct 2023
"It's Always F*cking Safety!" (Q&A Session)
<p>I get together with another Codependency Alchemy member to talk about fears around something we don't completely understand, and how it always's comes back to safety. We talk about embracing sexuality, fears around being sexualized, being in a state of fear, and more ... Show More
35m 14s
Feb 2024
#350: Grieving Expectations & Embracing Transformations
In this episode, I talk about adapting to change, setting boundaries, and valuing self in relationships. I explore the concept of self-worth detached from external validation and the importance of authenticity in relationships. I also speak about the process of confronting past t ... Show More
6m 31s
<p dir="ltr">Do you get offended if a date doesn't immediately get back to you? </p> <p dir="ltr">How about when you ask a friend to call you later and they don't?</p> <p dir="ltr">When you pass a stranger on the street and they glance at you, looking annoyed, do you assume their ... Show More
