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May 2025
46m 36s

Examining the "Victim Mentality"

Jordan Pickell and Alison McCleary
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What do therapists mean when they say someone has a "victim mentality"? In this episode, we unpack this flippant term and explore what’s going on underneath it. We recognize that "victim mentality" is applied to several distinct phenomena. We discuss the difference between being an actual victim of harm, using "victimhood" as a protective defense, and unproc ... Show More
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