What do therapists mean when they say someone has a "victim mentality"? In this episode, we unpack this flippant term and explore what’s going on underneath it. We recognize that "victim mentality" is applied to several distinct phenomena. We discuss the difference between being an actual victim of harm, using "victimhood" as a protective defense, and unproc ... Show More
Jan 21
Permissive Parenting, Spanking, and The Therapist's Conundrum
We started this episode with the working title, 'When You Watch Childhood Trauma Happening in Real Time', but as the conversation unfolded, so much of what we were talking about was a mixed bag of parenting choices that often fall within the cultural norm, even if, as therapists, ... Show More
42m 44s
Dec 2024
How to Overcome Victim Mindset and Take Responsibility For Your Life, w/ James Oliver
<p>James Oliver is a Self-Leadership Coach and Men’s Work Facilitator from the UK. He works with impact-driven men from around the world, to help them overcome resistance, self-doubt and shame, so that they can live freely, joyfully and in pursuit of their highest potential and p ... Show More
57m 9s
Aug 2025
Fawning: Answering Your Questions With Dr. Ingrid Clayton
In this conversation, host Monique Koven has invited Dr Ingrid Clayton back to answer your questions. They explore the concept of fawning as a relational trauma response, discussing its implications on identity, relationships, and personal growth. They delve into the complexities ... Show More
50m 39s
Jun 2025
Cognitive Psychologist: Break Free from a Victim Mindset | Scott Barry Kaufman
<p><em>What if the greatest obstacle to reaching your potential isn't external barriers, but a mindset in which you see yourself as a victim? </em></p><p>Today, I’m stoked to welcome back my good friend and one of my favorite thinkers, Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman. Th ... Show More
57m 16s
<p dir="ltr">Do you get offended if a date doesn't immediately get back to you? </p> <p dir="ltr">How about when you ask a friend to call you later and they don't?</p> <p dir="ltr">When you pass a stranger on the street and they glance at you, looking annoyed, do you assume their ... Show More
