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Aug 22
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Fawning: A Hidden Response to Trauma Wit...

MONIQUE KOVEN
About this episode

In this conversation,Trauma psychologist and author Dr. Ingrid Clayton shares her journey of healing from complex trauma and the significance of the fawn response in understanding relational dynamics. She discusses her experiences as a survivor and therapist, emphasizing the importance of recognizing fawning behaviours and their impact on self-identity and relationships. The dialogue explores the process of building self-trust, compassion, and the ongoing journey of healing, highlighting the need for a trauma-informed perspective in understanding these responses. Ingrid's insights aim to empower listeners to embrace their experiences and foster a deeper connection with themselves.

takeaways

  • Ingrid's first podcast experience was transformative for her healing journey.
  • Fawning is a response to relational trauma that often goes unrecognized.
  • Understanding fawning can help individuals make sense of their behaviors.
  • The journey of healing involves recognizing and addressing fawning behaviors.
  • Building self-trust is crucial for personal empowerment and healing.
  • Fawning can manifest in various relationships, including familial and romantic.
  • Self-compassion is essential in the healing process.
  • The importance of creating safe spaces for sharing personal stories.
  • Healing is an ongoing process that requires patience and understanding.
  • Everyone deserves access to tools and information for healing.


Ingrid's new book:

Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves--and How to Find Our Way Back

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IG:https://www.instagram.com/ingridclaytonphd/

Website: https://www.ingridclayton.com/



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