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Aug 29
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Fawning: Answering Your Questions With D...

MONIQUE KOVEN
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In this conversation, host Monique Koven has invited Dr Ingrid Clayton back to answer your questions. They explore the concept of fawning as a relational trauma response, discussing its implications on identity, relationships, and personal growth. They delve into the complexities of fawning, including its connection to chronic pain, dissociation, and the importance of setting boundaries. The discussion emphasizes the need for self-compassion and understanding in the healing process, as well as the role of environment in shaping fawning behaviors. Through personal anecdotes and insights, they highlight the journey towards authenticity and self-worth, encouraging listeners to embrace their true selves.

Ingrid's new book:

Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves--and How to Find Our Way Back

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