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May 2025
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#455 Becoming the Curator of Your Mind

MARK GROVES
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In this episode, I share a raw and reflective recording from a recent membership call where I explore what it means to truly surrender when life isn’t going the way we planned. I open up about personal struggles—from a home renovation disaster to deeper emotional reckonings—and unpack how resistance to reality often fuels our suffering. We dive into the complexities of relational dynamics, victimhood, shadow work, and the paradox of healing. If you've ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or at war with your own experience, this episode invites you to return to presence, self-honesty, and the power of simply “chopping wood and carrying water.” It’s vulnerable, unfiltered, and an invitation to meet yourself exactly where you are.

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