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Aug 2024
1h 15m

Dealing with Other People’s Defenses

RICK HANSON, PH.D., FORREST HANSON
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Forrest and Dr. Rick tackle the tricky topic of dealing with other people’s psychological defenses. It’s often easier to see other people’s defenses than to see our own, which can make them particularly frustrating to deal with. In this episode, Rick and Forrest explore the psychological and communication skills that will allow you to have more successful co ... Show More
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