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Mar 2025
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448: Heal Trauma End Self-Abandonment wi...

MICHELLE CHALFANT
About this episode

Today, we're diving into the world of trauma healing and emotional regulation with the insightful Dr. Nima Rahmany. If you've ever found yourself caught in the web of people-pleasing or feeling like you're stuck in a cycle of self-abandonment, this episode is your golden ticket to understanding why. Dr. Nima shares his journey from a successful chiropractic career to becoming a trauma healing guru.

We unravel the intriguing concept of fawning as a trauma response — ever caught yourself saying "yes" when you really mean "no"? Yep, that's fawning. Dr. Nima explains how this reflexive behavior is ingrained in cultural norms and service industries. And if you've ever wondered why those "I can't say no" moments often lead to resentment, both towards others and yourself, Dr. Nima's insights are bound to hit home.

Join us as we discuss how healing personal traumas can lead to empowerment and authenticity. With real-life stories and actionable insights, this episode encourages you to let go of guilt, shame, and those pesky victim identities. 

In this episode, you will hear:

  • Exploration of fawning as a trauma response and its impact on relationships and health.

  • The importance of setting boundaries and acknowledging personal needs.

  • The role of attachment styles in emotional healing and relationship transformation.

  • Stories of personal empowerment through overcoming feelings of unworthiness and victim identities.

  • Mastering self-regulation skills for personal growth and healing.

Resources from this Episode

 

Dr Nima's Website: drnima.com

 

Attachment Style Assessment - https://drnima.com/lp/attachment-style-assessment/?sl=AdultChair_2025_02_25

 

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