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Dec 2024
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116. James Oliver - How to Overcome Vict...

Jeremy Lipkowitz
About this episode

James Oliver is a Self-Leadership Coach and Men’s Work Facilitator from the UK. He works with impact-driven men from around the world, to help them overcome resistance, self-doubt and shame, so that they can live freely, joyfully and in pursuit of their highest potential and purpose.

In today's episode, James and I talk about how to overcome victim mentality and embrace radical responsibility. 

Expect to learn

  • the difference between victimhood and a victim mindset 
  • Consequences of a Victim Mindset
  • How Shame and the Victim Mindset intersect 
  • Patterns of Victim Mentality that show up often with Men
  • practical tools and mindsets to help you reclaim your personal power. 
  • and much more 

Connect with James: https://jamesoliver.co/ & https://www.instagram.com/iamjamesoliver/

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Shownotes

00:00 Understanding Our Contribution to Pain

01:10 Welcome Back to Unhooked

01:54 Exploring Victim Mentality

03:13 Personal Reflections on Victimhood

11:30 Consequences of a Victim Mindset

16:24 Helping Others See Their Victim Mentality

26:17 Patterns of Victim Mentality in Men

30:31 The Burden of Responsibility in Relationships

32:13 Recognizing Victim Mentality

34:38 Empowerment Through Acceptance

36:57 Inspiring Stories of Overcoming Adversity

45:36 Actionable Steps to Overcome Victim Mindset

50:15 Final Thoughts and Resources

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