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Apr 2025
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Ep. 246: The Breakup That Paved My Self-...

Mary Jelkovsky
About this episode

This episode is my honest reflection on a breakup that happened 7 years ago—long before I met my husband. It was a relationship that was equal parts toxic and transformative for my self-love journey. It ended up breaking my heart and somehow healing it, too. As women, it's hard to choose self-love in the midst romantic love.

I’ve shared bits and pieces over the years, but today I’m telling you my full breakup story—not just for the sake of storytelling, but to offer you insights into what healing really looks like, especially after a hard breakup. Tune in for a vulnerable chat + breakup advice.

You will learn how to... 
- reclaim your identity after a toxic or codependent relationship 
- navigate the grey areas in relationships: where healing and hurt coexist 
- find strength in letting go of relationships that no longer serve you 
- embrace self-love through the pain of a breakup 

Remember: Healing is not about erasing the past—it’s about choosing how to carry it forward. I hope this self-love podcast helps you do just that.

And—hint hint—this episode gives you a big clue about the location of my next self-love retreat… Join the retreat priority list to get early access to all the details!

Follow Mary on IG: @maryscupofteaa and @maryspodcast

Mentioned In This Episode... 
Martha Beck on The Mel Robbins Podcast

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