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Mar 2025
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Episode 103: Missing the Eating Disorder...

Julia Trehane
About this episode

🎙 Welcome back to Fly to Freedom!

Have you ever felt a deep sense of loss when letting go of your eating disorder? You’re not alone. In today’s episode, I’m talking about something that many people in recovery experience but often feel afraid to admit—missing the eating disorder.

💭 Why would you miss something that caused so much pain?
💭 Why does letting go feel so scary, even when you know recovery is right?
💭 How can you grieve the eating disorder while still moving forward?

In this episode, we explore:
✔ Why letting go of an eating disorder feels like grief
✔ The neuroscience behind why your brain resists change
✔ How the eating disorder created an illusion of control
✔ Navigating the panic and fear of losing something that felt like a safety net
✔ Practical coping strategies to move through the fear and discomfort
✔ A powerful guided visualization to help you feel safe in this process

You can miss the eating disorder without wanting to go back.
You are not losing yourself—you are rediscovering who you truly are.
Freedom is waiting for you, one step at a time.

💜 If grief is a feeling you’re struggling with, our new Feelings Navigator inside The Eating Disorder Recovery Circle includes a complete section on grief, with a workbook, journaling prompts, and even a meditation designed to help you process and cope with this raw emotion. Because recovery isn’t just about the actions you take—it’s about learning how to support yourself through the emotions that arise along the way.

🔗 Join the conversation & find support:
📌 Instagram:instagram.com/juliatrehane
📌 Website:juliatrehane.com
📌 Community:edrecoverycircle.com

👉 If this episode resonated with you, send me a message on Instagram, and let’s talk about it! And if you’re ready for more support, come and be part of The Circle—a space for real connection, understanding, and recovery.

🎧 Listen now and take your next step toward freedom. 💜

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