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Mar 2025
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Episode 102: So What Is The Anorexic Min...

Julia Trehane
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53 minutes of sheer interview joy!

Today’s episode is an absolute treat as I welcome the marvellous Amy Margolis, LCSW. Amy is a licensed therapist, co-clinical director of Santa Monica Counseling, and an expert in eating disorder recovery. She’s also a seasoned voice actor with credits from Nickelodeon, Netflix, and Disney, but more than anything, she’s a passionate advocate for healing and self-worth.

This episode is extra special because Amy and I recorded an incredible conversation previously… only to find out it never saved! Luckily, Amy graciously agreed to return, and honestly, I think this conversation is even better.

We cover everything from the anorexic mindset and societal conditioning to the power of vulnerability, the illusion of happiness, and how starvation impacts mental health. Whether you’re in recovery, supporting someone, or just curious about breaking free from deprivation thinking, this episode is packed with insight, wisdom, and practical advice.

🔹 10:48 – Personal Journey with Eating Disorders
🔹 17:00 – The Anorexic Mindset and Societal Conditioning
🔹 23:45 – Challenges and Coping Mechanisms
🔹 28:34 – Understanding the Anorexic Mindset
🔹 28:55 – The Illusion of Happiness and Fantasy
🔹 30:22 – Societal Pressures and Fullness in Life
🔹 31:19 – The Impact of Starvation on Mental Health
🔹 33:25 – The Core Sentence of Eating Disorders
🔹 34:14 – Recovery and Embracing Needs
🔹 36:48 – The Power of Vulnerability and Connection
🔹 37:05 – Acting Your Way into Right Thinking
🔹 40:42 – The Messiness of Life and Control
🔹 42:11 – The Strengths of Those with Eating Disorders
🔹 43:14 – Women Supporting Women
🔹 53:06 – The Importance of Journaling

Amy Margolis, LCSW, is a licensed therapist and co-clinical director of Santa Monica Counseling. She works with individuals and couples and leads groups supporting those healing from eating disorders, addictions, anxiety, depression, and related issues. Outside the clinical world, Amy is a Meisner and Groundlings-trained actor with extensive voice-over work for major networks, including Nickelodeon, Netflix, and Disney.

Beyond her professional work, Amy is a devoted wife, mother of three, and an advocate for self-love and authenticity.

📖 Grab Amy’s book:Here's the Memo – Every memo she wished she had when she needed it most.
📲 Follow Amy on Instagram:@heres_the_memo
🌐 Website & Contact:amymargolislcsw.com | Email: amy@heresthememo.com

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