Episode 675: How A Secure Person Deals W...

Is your ex REALLY gone forever? Or will they return?Dating/relationship expert Lucia breaks down the clear signs your ex is gone for good vs. the hidden clues they might return.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App: iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets BookSay hi on Instagram 

Struggling with no contact? The rules have evolved! Dating/relationship expert Lucia shares the new 2025 no contact rules to help you get your ex back.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App: iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets Book 

Avoidant partners often appear cold or indifferent after a breakup. Does that mean they don't care?Dating/relationship expert Lucia breaks down the psychology and regret timeline of avoidant exes.Get coaching!Download Silenzio App: iPhone OR AndroidRead No Contact Secrets Book 

Send us a textThis is a common phenomenon that most people with an anxious attachment style will experience if they dated someone with an avoidant attachment style. That is of the Avoidant Attached person suddenly running away after a conflict or breaking up. It can be really con ... Show More

Send us a textWe all want to feel like the priority in the relationship but this is often not felt when in a relationship with an avoidant attached person. But is this only with a avoidant attached partner or can an insecure (anxious or avoidant) attached feel that way with a sec ... Show More

In this episode, we’re diving into how fearful avoidant attachment (also known as disorganised attachment) plays out in relationships. If you identify with this attachment style, you might notice certain patterns in your relationships that feel confusing or contradictory. Key poi ... Show More

You might be confused as to why your avoidant attached partner needs as much space or perhaps why they detach and disappear for days. This episode may shed some light and help you assist them.   If you have an avoidant attachment style and it's kept you from forming meaningf ... Show More

If you are the partner of someone with relationship anxiety, this episode is for you.   If you have relationship anxiety and want to be able to ask your partner for more intentional support, this episode is for you!   Thank you to the help of the You Love and You Learn community ... Show More

Is your partner pulling away? It can be an unnerving experience, especially when you don't know why your partner seems checked out lately. But you can use this as an opportunity to gain clarity about how your partner is feeling in your relationship and start a conversation that b ... Show More

Send us a textYou value your independence, need plenty of space, and rarely rely on others—it’s just how you’re wired. But what if your ‘normal’ way of handling relationships is actually pushing love away and leaving you feeling lonelier than ever? Avoidant attachment might be pr ... Show More

Send us a textIt can be heartbreaking when we are rejected when making an attempt to be physically close to a partner. In this episode, I answer one of your questions on if sexual desires differ as per attachment style, and what to do when a partner rejects your initiations for p ... Show More

In today’s episode, former client and dismissive avoidant attacher Randy Hamama shares his journey of navigating insecurities in a new relationship. He discusses common avoidant struggles, such as discerning fears from authentic desires, staying present when the urge to withdraw ... Show More

Should you tell your partner about your relationship anxiety? If so, how? I’m often asked questions like: "How much should you disclose about your relationship anxiety to your partner to avoid making them feel bad or scared?" Today I’m answering that question and telling you: 3 t ... Show More