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Oct 2024
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Episode 675: How A Secure Person Deals W...

LUCIA
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If you have an anxious attachment style, your first instinct when your avoidant partner pulls away will be to run after them. But this rarely works. Dating/relationship expert Lucia explain what a secure person would do when an avoidant starts to pull away.

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