If you and your partner are struggling because one of you peruses connection and desires intimacy, but the other one of you pushes away and highly values autonomy, you might be falling into the anxious-avoidant trap.
In this episode we talk about:
· What the anxious-avoidant trap is
· How to get out of the anxious-avoidant trap
· What attachment is
· What a ... Show More
Nov 2024
124. 3 Reasons You’re Having Conflicts, Not Peaceful Conversations
When couples start therapy they often tell me they want to communicate better, have tools for how to communicate, want the relationship to be more peaceful, and want a level of respect and kindness. Do you relate? I know I want a peaceful relationship with respect and kindness. W ... Show More
11m 54s
Jan 2024
122. 4 sticking points to overcome to be a better communicator
If you and your partner want to improve your communication in 2024, here are 4 common sticking points that you will need to overcome. January is a time of New Year resolutions, commitments to do better, and learning something new. Here are 4 things to consider if you and your par ... Show More
16m 2s
May 2022
#7: The Anxious-Avoidant Trap
<p>In this episode, we're diving into the anxious-avoidant trap - aka, what happens when an anxious and an avoidant person end up in a relationship. We'll cover what the anxious-avoidant trap usually entails, how these two attachment styles clash, why they're so of ... Show More
19m 44s
Jul 2025
#54: The 4 Phases of the Anxious-Avoidant Trap (and How to Break Free)
If you’ve ever felt stuck in a relationship that’s intense, confusing, and emotionally draining - you’re not alone. In this episode, we break down the 4 predictable phases of the anxious-avoidant trap:✨ The Honeymoon⚡ The Trigger🎢 The Push & Pull😮💨 The ExhaustionYou’ll learn ... Show More
35m 30s
May 2025
Ending The Anxious/Avoidant Relational Deathtrap
Talking points: attachment, relationships, psychologyIf you're the more anxious type and you're dating someone more avoidant (or vice versa), it can create a whole realm of intensity that many people find hard to fathom. It's the best and worst of the old saying "opposites attrac ... Show More
18m 41s
Jul 2022
#16: Anxious Attachment, Conflict & Communication
<p>In this episode, we're talking about anxious attachment, conflict & communication. We'll dive into why anxiously attached people struggle with identifying and communicating their needs, how to navigate conflict aversion fuelled by a fear of abandonment, and tools ... Show More
21m 6s
Nov 2022
#32: Q&A: Dishonesty & Avoidant Partners, Boundaries Around Space, Trust & Privacy, Sexual Rejection & more
<p>In this week's episode I'm answering your questions - with a particular focus on anxious-avoidant relationship dynamics. We're discussing why people with an avoidant attachment style might use evasiveness or dishonesty as a distancing strategy, how to communicat ... Show More
16m 35s