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Apr 2024
24m 13s

#138: What to Do When a Partner Pulls Aw...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts on how to navigate a partner pulling away. If you're someone with anxious attachment patterns, a partner's withdrawal or disengagement can feel extremely distressing - and yet, many of our go-to strategies for managing that distress can ironically have the effect of pushing someone further away. 

We'll cover:

  • what to do when someone pulls away in an early dating context
  • why we feel drawn to pursuing connections with people who are inconsistent 
  • how to navigate a partner repeatedly leaving and coming back
  • what to do when a long-term partner is emotionally withdrawn or distant

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